About revenge and forgiveness

We have here some ideas from the expert Jack Kornfield (PhD in Buddhist psychology).

A. The desire for revenge is a built-in feature of human nature.
57 out of 60 (95%) societies examined have it. The presence of others will increase the chance of revenge (pride involved). If two men have and argument, the mere presence of a third person will double the chances for this to escalate.

B. The capacity for forgiveness is also a built-in feature of human nature.
93% of the societies examined have it. Most of animals, especially primates, have conciliatory gesture, except the cats (if you have a cat, you know this already).

C. To make the world a more forgiving , less vengeful place, do not try to change the human nature, change the world.
Raised in more conciliatory environment, you tend to become more conciliatory than is typical. What Mahatma Gandhi said "Be the change you want in the world!" was never more truthful than in this case.

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