Love, forgiveness and shifting the blame

“Your task is not to seek for love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.”
(Rumi)

This is indeed the best strategy, because is implying to work with ourselves first, before we try to change another person. But often we forget about it, and we blame the other for our own shortcomings. And then the balance of our relationship is moved even further. Think about this, when was last time when you sincerely admitted that you were wrong?